Last weekend, my brother graduated with a Masters in Divinity (MDiv) from African International University, and I can solely say that that was the most emotional days in my life. I have never been that proud of anyone like I was that day. My brother is a very hardworking man and one thing I am most certain about is that he deserves every accolade that comes in his way. In saying that, I am in no way talking from a sibling-bias perspective.
Having a Law background, he chose what he had a passion for and ran with it. Dear reader, it is not as easy as I put it down. If you know how hard it is to find what exactly is your passion, let me just inform that it requires extra joules to implement it. In employing your dream, it takes so much energy and work that in the middle of that implementation journey, you might just get tricked to not follow it up. You all know the quote ‘Hardwork Pays’, but we sometimes forget to register it in our heads that in reality, it is actually hard. The generation I live in (and that I’m a part of) is trained by technology and other dynamics to expect things forthwith and in a whim. I have met a lot of young people who have really great ideas but are not ready to put in the work and sacrifice that is required to make the idea a reality. Without the ‘hard’ in the ‘hardwork’, you do not have the success story for your journey. You just end up with a “I tried… but it never worked out. I tried though!”. We have watched and read so many success stories but in all that material, we are delusioned to see the beautiful side of the story. We forget the sweat, tears, risks and times that the people almost packed their bags en route home.
My brother mentioned in his speech that there were times that he felt that it was not worth it, or rather it was too much for all the time and other factors that he invested in. From that I learnt even as you work hard, there are other dynamics like character, perseverance & patience that makes the hardwork worth a chat or two. From what we have been hearing from the news recently of suicides and young people resulting to actions that endanger other human beings, it is only clear that our youth have lost the yearn of wanting to work hard. It is clear that they want to succeed but they do not know that the right way to get success is by working hard. We are fearing hardwork. We are fearing hardwork to a point that we can look for other ‘simpler’ and illegal things so as to get what we want. Now that is where we get our priorities mixed up.
It is alright to be afraid once in a while, but do not let yourself be desperate! Do not imagine that everything will happen abruptly and in 2 weeks you will be a rich man or woman living in Mars (if you do not live there already) showering people with money and pleasantries. I am sorry but this does not work for everyone. For the few that it has worked on, they must have had really good plans and put down definite calculated schemes. Please do not get the ‘everything instant’ bug! Good things take time to build. You must take your time and put in realistic time frames! Sit down, make a plan- a definite plan! Do your math and work hard at making your dreams and ideas a reality. Just because you write and tweet something funny and in 20 minutes it gets retweeted over a 100 times, it doesn’t meant that that will be the same reception that you will get after you take your business plan to your boss. Take time and then you will realize that patience makes your success even more respectable to others. Do not forget to be consistent! Your audience and customers will take you seriously if they notice that you actually have them in mind with your product/service.
This is why most beautiful biographies have much to say, because they actually had a journey with ups and downs. A story with just good things and nothing sad or controversial becomes blunt and seems quite unrealistic- like the person is hiding something. That missing part is most times the good part. When implementing your dream, do not fear to have bad times. As mentioned above, they actually make the journey quite credible. Do not fear or try to escape hardwork. That is where the story is!
Congratulations Peter! To more celebrations and success stories. L’chaim!
*a correction on my Twitter. MDiv not MBA.